Re: Relationships?
Posted: Thu Oct 04, 2018 5:35 pm
Wow, how time flies.VoxLupus wrote: βThu Jan 12, 2012 3:33 pm Okay guys. I think it is time I broke the news.
If you followed the forum closely you probably already know and I have told a few people, furs and non-furs alike.
This is mainly for the stragglers who don't bother to check every thread and don't catch all the updates. Don't feel bad though; I would probably fall into this category too.
Well anyway, although the news isn't braking, I think it is about time that I made a statement on the forum.
For about 6 months (exactly in 2 days time) I have been in an 'official' relationship with someone I met on this forum. It was a long distance relationship but that has not seemed to be too much of a problem.
I say 'was' because in a few days time I will be moving down to Cape Town.
I have been accepted into UCT to study and have comfortable accommodation there with a school friend.
So I am in a comfortable and happy relationship with the one you know as 'Ryall'... Me, I am happy to call him 'boyfriend'.
Love you lots you silly hyena!!! Looking forward to seeing you again REALLY soon.
<3
P.S. I think it is about time you changed your 'Sexual pre-fur-ence' field; you aren't fooling anyone any more
Eyy Cheeeeers! Recently moved to Cape Town from Gauteng, maybe I should dabble in the relationship pool here lol.Ryall wrote: βTue Sep 28, 2021 9:45 amWow, how time flies.VoxLupus wrote: βThu Jan 12, 2012 3:33 pm Okay guys. I think it is time I broke the news.
If you followed the forum closely you probably already know and I have told a few people, furs and non-furs alike.
This is mainly for the stragglers who don't bother to check every thread and don't catch all the updates. Don't feel bad though; I would probably fall into this category too.
Well anyway, although the news isn't braking, I think it is about time that I made a statement on the forum.
For about 6 months (exactly in 2 days time) I have been in an 'official' relationship with someone I met on this forum. It was a long distance relationship but that has not seemed to be too much of a problem.
I say 'was' because in a few days time I will be moving down to Cape Town.
I have been accepted into UCT to study and have comfortable accommodation there with a school friend.
So I am in a comfortable and happy relationship with the one you know as 'Ryall'... Me, I am happy to call him 'boyfriend'.
Love you lots you silly hyena!!! Looking forward to seeing you again REALLY soon.
<3
P.S. I think it is about time you changed your 'Sexual pre-fur-ence' field; you aren't fooling anyone any more
Herewith an update on this: VoxLupus and I shared many adventures together after he moved to Cape Town, and we still do. Fast forward a bit, we own a house in Joburg and have been living together for over three years.
14 July of this year marked our ten year anniversary together, and we got engaged on that day.
Hereβs to many more years together! May the adventures never stop!
Cheers everyone!
You know, yeah. Why not! Screw it, got nothing to loose Hmu up with any lonesome single folks around 22 y/o haha, time to hit the market and see what specials there is xD Who knows, maybe I get lucky.
This is an interesting statement. A relationship doesn't necessarily need to be romantic, there is more to a relationship than romance.Storm wrote: βThu Mar 14, 2024 4:02 pm No,not interested in romance whatsoever.In fact I can be described as ''romance repulsed''. Having said that,I don't really use romantic orientation terminology because I don't find it all that useful.I simply call myself asexual.I am 100 % sure I do not experience sexual attraction,in the sense that I would be absolutely fine with never involving someone in a sexual way for the rest of my life.There is no urge to at all. If a bisexual person can simply call themselves bisexual ,I can call myself asexual.Coming out as asexual and agender literally saved my life so I'll just stick to those labels.
I don't think I can ever know if I experience romantic attraction with 100 % certainty.it's a much harder concept for me to wrap my head around.The important question for me is whether I want to have a partner.The answer is no,definitely not (whether platonic or romantic).I plan on staying single for the rest of my life.I find it difficult enough to form friendships,due to the fact that I take the concept of friendship very seriously and find it extremely difficult to trust others.While I have become more trusting of others lately,I would still not have many ''friends''.If I do decide that I care enough to consider someone a friend I would take it extremely seriously so it makes sense for me to be picky.Outside of ace spaces people don't really use romantic terminology anyway so simply calling myself ace is more comfy.I love the idea of staying single.I also do not fear being alone.
Ayyyy! Another ace person!Storm wrote: βThu Mar 14, 2024 5:03 pm Sure ,platonic relationships are valid.I'm just not all that keen on having a partner. I like my alone time and being around people too often really isn't my cup of tea haha.
I suppose I am not entirely immune to craving shared experience per se but compared to most people I'd say that I definitely value alone time more.My thoughts keep me company.I very often find ideas more interesting than people.I also generally bond easier with animals than people.Having said that as a teacher I feel like I am not alone.As a ''friend'' to someone I am not alone. That's more than enough for me *shrugs*.
I suppose there are all kinds of possible reasons for this,including some experiences I went through.And yes,I do sometimes cut off emotions as a way to protect myself.But I've been working on that.If I end up caring about someone they definitely know though haha.
As for being ace I'm definitely sure I am by now haha so there's no doubt about that.I don't really view the label as having to be 100 % accurate in regards to the definition though,if someone feels it's a 98% fit that still counts in my opinion.I think there is a variety of ways to be straight,gay,bi and asexual.At some point you just know who you are.Or at least I do (have been entirely certain for the past 10 years or so).Having said that,I totally get that figuring yourself can be a process.
Thanks for the welcome.switchbadger wrote: βThu Mar 14, 2024 5:19 pmAyyyy! Another ace person!Storm wrote: βThu Mar 14, 2024 5:03 pm Sure ,platonic relationships are valid.I'm just not all that keen on having a partner. I like my alone time and being around people too often really isn't my cup of tea haha.
I suppose I am not entirely immune to craving shared experience per se but compared to most people I'd say that I definitely value alone time more.My thoughts keep me company.I very often find ideas more interesting than people.I also generally bond easier with animals than people.Having said that as a teacher I feel like I am not alone.As a ''friend'' to someone I am not alone. That's more than enough for me *shrugs*.
I suppose there are all kinds of possible reasons for this,including some experiences I went through.And yes,I do sometimes cut off emotions as a way to protect myself.But I've been working on that.If I end up caring about someone they definitely know though haha.
As for being ace I'm definitely sure I am by now haha so there's no doubt about that.I don't really view the label as having to be 100 % accurate in regards to the definition though,if someone feels it's a 98% fit that still counts in my opinion.I think there is a variety of ways to be straight,gay,bi and asexual.At some point you just know who you are.Or at least I do (have been entirely certain for the past 10 years or so).Having said that,I totally get that figuring yourself can be a process.
I too walked along this path. Started off thinking I was "simply gay" as a teen. Put myself through a bunch of experiences that just traumatised me in my 20s. Ended up just staying single for like 10 years and tried on identifying as ace for the last 4 years. Ended up last year figuring out demisexual seems to fit better for me since the only time I ever seem to feel attraction to someone is after being friends for at least a year and a half.
I wish you comfort, strength, and safety while navigating these weird waters.
The journey just never seems to end
Heyyy! Demi pride!switchbadger wrote: βThu Mar 14, 2024 5:19 pm Ended up last year figuring out demisexual seems to fit better for me since the only time I ever seem to feel attraction to someone is after being friends for at least a year and a half.